Maybe this is an odd way for a dom to feel—I’m not sure. I’m still a novice in my education about the BDSM community. All I know is that my desires revolve around touching, not being touched.
Rather than being pleasured, I want to have. I want to take. For me, it’s an entirely mental satisfaction, rather than physical. I couldn’t care less about having the attention on me.
For similar reasons, I do not want to dress up my body in leather to dominate him. I may wear certain things by request, but I’m uncomfortable with a lot of fetish clothing. No nurse’s outfit, either, or skimpy things. I’d rather wear my own style and be attractive to him that way. “Can you put on that grey sweater I love?” is more what I have in mind.
There are some things I may let a partner do to me, if he wanted to. I want his desires to be fulfilled too, and if he desires my body, I’d be willing to explore that (albeit cautiously). But there are things that I would not do—like be the receiving partner in sex. If he wants me to penetrate him, I’ll do so with utter glee, but I’m not up for switching.
The things I wouldn’t do are often the things that make me feel like a sexual anomaly, with little to relate to. I know I must not be alone in this. Trust me, I do know that. But my impression of mainstream BDSM is that femdoms want their subs pleasure them. And while I think that’s awesome, it just isn’t me.
I’m not interested in my body—I’m interested in his. Be a good boy and let me have my way, will you?